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Today is a wonderful day! I’m feeling awesome… Its sad when folks try to steal your awesome moments… This is why I’m grateful to my mentors… They taught me early on to protect my happiness. I just can’t believe folks grown folks could be so childish and petty. Jealousy is a monstrous disease! Smh… My haters and those who trespass against me and my journey are the fuel for my ambition. Today I had to catch myself. I was ready to go on a ignorant crusade. However after sitting back and realizing all my blessings, that’s exactly what the devil wants… Its just sad how he works through people. I refuse to get caught up with the nonsense… Its going to take a lot more than name calling and throwing my grandmother in the equation to get a “rise” out of me lol… For those who are lost I have an anonymous hater who goes out of his/her way to email me silly messages… Today I’m a lay on my back ho… I laughed it off, I’ve been called worse but much better people. My angel is shining down on me from up above, she is proud and that’s all that ever really mattered. How miserable of a soul to drag my deceased grandmother into something so disgraceful… Shame on it all… Any who tonight it goes down on sirius xm Shade45.. ‘Lipservice’ followed by ’showoff’ radio.. Of course with me on the boards doing my production thing. We will be airing rude jude and reef live from detroit they will be covering the eminem/jay-z concert so make sure you’re tuned in tonight sirius xm66 shade45 8-midnight ET
Can’t knock my hussle! I’m getting it in 2 jobs 5 classes, my own place, no kids, I’m something like a dream lol 
have a meeting before work tonight… Shout outs to my homie adebisi! 80’s babies the mixtape. I didn’t realize how much our mixtape changed his life but it def did, got him to nyc doing shows etc… I see your progression babe! Get it! In little dominican republic right now (washington heights) lol home of the haze smh… Ill holla simply stylez! God thank you for the strength to ignore ignorance !
So as I promised, I’m going to keep up with my blogs, etc…. For those who have been following my blog for the last two years, you know I blog about my real life shit, as Mz.Stylez and as Shawna… We aren’t going to change the formula now… Today started pretty early. Had 7am class. Work today, which is just a few meetings. Things are going very well in my world. I moved recently, made the switch to BROOKLYN! And its been awesome thus far, its a one bedroom, really cozy, and I’m having all the fun in the world hooking my space up. I’m starting the fall off with a wonderful bang. Slowly getting back into the swing of things within the “business” but with a greater sense of myself. That vacation from everything was so needed… I really needed to detach myself so I could look in from the outside and assess my next move strategically. I’ve been in regular communication with my mentors and, although they want to see me live out my DJ dream, I know I will however, right now my focus is on school and figuring out what and who Shawna is. I know Mz. Stylez I’ve been preparing her my entire adult life, now its time to get to know Shawna and I’m enjoying that. Holla at yall manana
Yes folk Among the other great things I have going on, I am still writing my book. This isn’t a self help book, or a book on tips lol its a book based on true events and I’m excited. hitting my fourth chapter page 60. I’ve been really going hard at it, even given up going out and running the town to focus on the details and research for my book. I’m very excited. I Just sent the first chapter to my editor. Things are looking very great. I can’t wait to put the book out but timing is everything. This book is going to change my life and the way people look at me. good bad or indifferent it is what it is/ and will be what it will be.!
So the majority of my time will be dedicated to my book. I still have about another 110 pages to write, i average about ten-15 pages a day so i should be finished the rough draft in about 2-3 weeks. I hope you bare with me, i know my updates are bland but all of my creative energy is going into this master piece!
stylez
I haven’t been writing as much because my attention has been else where. I apologize for the neglect. I’ve missed you though if that counts for anything. I’ve been seriously putting thoughts to paper. I’m constructing my first book. As much as I want to go in and tell you the details, I have to wait. Timing is everything. but i will say I am extremely excited. These past few day’s I’ve been MIA. I’ve run around with porn star friends,& reality star friends. Special birthday love to the boy DJ Pro-Style and promoter OBIE and all you other Taurus folk. Stylez has been a busy woman, reconnecting with old folk. closing chapters in my life. Today I’m feeling absolutely in control. I had the opportunity to be a bitch to someone that really did me dirty but instead, i took the higher road. the road to success is learning from your failures, to strengthen your successes. I have been learning so much. I don’t regret anything that I’ve been through and I don’t hold grudges, however I don’t forget either. I will always remember those people who went out their way to hurt or betray me. and I keep those people distant. no need in having those negative forces around me. I’m cooking up some greatness for you loyal readers, so just bare with me and be patient. lol some one told me I’m a freak because I hang with porn stars, and my response to that is, I was a freak long before i met my porno friends lmao. I’m just not freaky with everyone certain lovers get certain treatment that other lovers may not, depends on the chemistry, the relationship etc!
ok I’ll be back to get into it in depth later. but in the mean time make sure you download my latest mixtape with par city HERE: copy and paste code in browse http://www.megaupload.com/?d=N2J83L4Z
SIMPLY STYLEZ PRESENTS PAR CITY HELD OVER THE HOLD UP PART 2!!!!
This week has been very interesting to say the least. This blog will be no different, now granted it is only Wednesday. However there seems to never be dull moment in my life. I’ve been dealing with an eternal conflict. I almost got wrapped up in trying to fit in with the “IN CROWD” who ever they are. I was listening to a radio friend talk about another woman, and how her “shoe game” wasn’t up to par, which got me to thinking. {
DISCLAIMER: What you are about to read is REAL!!! If you don’t appreciate or recognize real, than maybe its time to minimize this page and go about your business}Now I was a little bothered by the comment, especially because as much as I front like I’m getting it, I can’t afford some of the things that my “industry” friends can afford. As much as I’d love to shop on 5th avenue every weekend, I just can’t afford it, and live my real life as Shawna, you know the person behind the Stylez persona? Yes there is a real live person behind my character lol. I became so frustrated with the thought of not being able to afford the nice things that is slummed my entire weekend, I even cried, that was until I spoke to my advisor. He’s been in the game for about 10 years and he is anything but “flossed out” He is a regular Joe, drives a regular car, he rents doesn’t own big houses or mansions. He’s just a really basic guy that works hard and loves music. “Shawna, you have to be you baby girl, you cant allow what these other people are doing/ and or saying to change your mission, you unlike some of these other folk have a gift, you are talented and you’ve acquired a skill, you don’t have to over compensate, with jewelry or shoes, that stuff will come, further more half the people you just mentioned, are bums fronting for the cameras, there is no money in this game anymore, 99.9% of the shit you see is because people are charging it, ruining their credit to “fit in” do you want to be in debt and cute? Or do you want to be able to own property and than go to Gucci? Shit Stylez, your blessed, you’re a woman in the industry and you’ve accomplished more than the average 30 year old, plus you didn’t have to lay on your back for any of it, you’ve earned everything you have, and you can go to bed at night with a clean conscience, some of your business friends can’t, some of them only have to offer their physical, because their talent is out the window, and so is skill. Don’t get caught up ma, stay focused and geared toward the bigger picture.” I thought about it long and hard. I do want the finer things, I would like to go shoe shopping with the “bad bitches” however, material items don’t define me, or how much of a “bad bitch” I am. I remember saying I’m going to fake it till I make it, so when did my vision become so blurred? 
I had to catch myself; I can’t compare myself to anyone else because no one else can do it like me and vice versa. People get so caught up with the flashing lights they lose sight of the reason they get in the game to begin with. I can’t speak for anyone else but I got in the game because radio is my life. I’ve loved radio since the first time I heard star and buck wild on shot 97. Now I can’t live with out my radio. I’ve invested thousands of dollars in an education suited around communications, just so I had an edge on some of the other competition in radio; I’ve actually acquired a degree in it. I apologize for loosing sight of my dreams, getting caught up with the hoopla… But I’m back. Back to making mixtapes for the people, back to talking to the people who support my career, fuck trying to impress these industry folk, Yes I can admit it I got wrapped up but I re-realize, the only person that needs to be impressed is me! I got into this game because I love music, being able to talk to people around the country about things that are important to them, it’s therapeutic. So I may not be able to afford 2,000 shoes, I may not have 2k diamond earrings but one thing I do have is my passion, I unlike so many people wake up and get to do what I love doing, that’s the ultimate reward…
I’VE HAD A MOMENT OF INDISCRETION BUT IM BACK! AND ITS SOO OK TO BE MYSELF. THE SNEAKER QUEEN THAT CAN ROCK A PAIR OF SHOES WHEN NEED BE… FUCK CONFORMING FOR WHAT? TO BE LIKE THE REST OF THE INDUSTRY SNOBS? I’LL PASS AND MAKE MY OWN WAY.. THANKS ANYWAY. IM GLAD I CAUGHT MY SELF!
Now you know the only time I post records on my site is if, I have a special tie to the artist, I’m trying to get feed back on a record or I really enjoy a record with that said, I’m def feeling this track. I’ve played it so many times I kinda already memorized the words. its very rare that find rap records {these days} that can get me to listen more than twice. I get bored easily but this record definitely keeps my interest. Shout outs to Ricky Ross on a job well done, too bad we don’t play rick ross music on shade45 however thats what hiphop nation and the foxxhole are for… enjoy
“SUPER HIGH” RICK ROSS FEAT. NEYO ON SIMPLYSTYLEZ.COM
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It’s Monday the start of yet another work week. Usually I start the week off with a playful blog, but this morning is going to be a bit different. I couldn’t help but notice one of the trending topics on twitter this past weekend. What blew my mind further were some of the ignorant comments people were making, especially some made by tasteless women. The trending topic was RAPE.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I consider this to be an ultra sensitive topic, that should never be joked about. There is nothing funny about a person forcing themselves on another person. I was more than offended by some of the comments people wrote, and disturbed by @lilduval for starting the trending topic in the first place. Now before I go in, I will say I kinda liked lil Duval, I thought his twitter antics were funny, until he created the #itaintrape…, I can’t begin to describe the outrage I felt. We joke and kid about things without really thinking about what we are putting in the atmosphere “#itaintrape if the pussy gets wet” that’s what one of the Duval groupies said.
I mean seriously, where do we draw the line? Apparently I wasn’t the only person outraged because @Michaelskolnik from global grind lashed out on the foolishness as well, in an article titled “are you fuckin kidding me” www.globalgrind.com 
I think it’s a shame people just jump on the band wagon for anything, with out using a bit of common sense. I mean come on, #ITAINTRAPE? There isn’t anything better to TT about? This dude @lilduval is wack for that, and I don’t care how many of you duval groupies don’t like what I’m saying. Does this man not have women in his family?
Is he that desperate for attention? This is exactly what my mentor means by fame seekers, so thirsty to be in the lime light, they will say, and do anything!!! People are so desperate to seem “twitter-cool”. Rather than being a fame seeker, why not use your influence to help our community?
I talked to my home girls about this, and they were all outraged as well. Out of my 4 closest homies and myself, 3 of us have been molested or raped. Lil Duval you have no idea of the mental anguish we’ve had to deal with, on a daily basis. What if your daughter was raped? Would you tell her, it ain’t rape if your pussy gets wet? Pathetic, Rather than trying to get attention, and trying to make people like you on twitter, maybe you need to do some soul searching. If this is the type of attention you want, you are the lamest. Victims of rape often blame themselves for it, Hell, I used to blame myself for what happened to me, luckily I’ve had great people in my corner who have helped me through some of the pain, however it doesn’t erase the memory, nor does it change what was done. Your Trending Topic brought tears to my eyes, to see how ignorant people can be. Lil Duval since you seem to have the answers, was it rape when he decided to repeatedly penetrate my 6 year old womb, when he stole my innocence?
People really need to start thinking for themselves rather than allowing idiots like Lil Duval dictate what is “cool”
And if a woman says no, thats it NO MEANS NO, if you take it or try ti persuade her, its rape no if, and, or, buts about it!
Unsure if you will take advantage of her.
She’s weak, been hurt a time or two
But despite the trials and tribulations
She is willing to put the past behind her
And explore something new
She’s willing to let go of the pain
Able to move forward
She wants to feel wanted.
Needs to feel desired
Afraid to express herself
Unsure of which direction to take,
Unwilling to waste time
Not looking to be hurt.
Your fears are her fears
Trusting the unknown
Unsure of what will transpire
However, one thing for sure
She wants you.
She is my Heart.
P-; my backwards smily lol {inny}
Its drives me absolutely insane!!!! INSANE I TELL YOU!!!!
I hang out with 99.9% males by choice, I have about 3 or 4 solid female friends that I vibe with on a regular basis, and they also happen to be extended sisters. You know the females I grew up with from the sand box LITERALLY.
Hanging out with the male specimen, I’ve gained a lot of insight, and knowledge to how men operate, and think, generally speaking that is.
What drives me absolutely nuts, are these lame ass women, who use there children as pawns to hurt the “baby daddy”. Yes, we are on a serious note this dreary Monday morning. Why do women do that? WTF? We complain about needing a good man, “I need a good man that’s going to provide for his family, I need him to be there for his children etc” yet, the moment he slips up, it’s “I’m taking you for child support” r “you can’t see your child”. I think that is despicable, how do you keep the father of your child away? Not only are you punishing him, you’re also punishing the child.
This weekend, I had the pleasure to kick it with an old friend. Now I won’t front initially I was hesitant to hang with Ole boy because he has issues to say the least, but after hanging with him I’ve realized, home boy is miserable because his baby mother took both his kids away and he doesn’t know how to locate them. He has no numbers, no addresses nothing, all because he missed a hair cut. I mean, listening to his story I came to the conclusion she left him to be with her current live in boyfriend and she figured it be easier to drop him and have her current boyfriend play daddy #2. Which is trifling to no end? What kind of a woman does that? Further more, as the live in boyfriend, what kind of a man allows a woman to keep the children away from the biological dad, especially if the bio-dad wants to be active. I mean this dude was distraught. 
We went to Duane Reade to fill a prescription and the pharmacy happened to be in eye view of the toy section, the poor man almost broke down “I just want to buy my sons some toys, and take them to the movies” I can’t imagine the pain he is in. His sons are now 8 and 2, he hasn’t seen them in almost 2 years, which means the baby doesn’t even know who “daddy” really is, and the eldest child is probably confused as all hell. For the first 6 years Bio-daddy was around, and for the last 2- daddy #2 has taken his place. We as women have to do better! We can’t allow the stress and frustration of the relationship affect what’s going on with the children. We can’t use our children to try and control a man; “if you don’t come over today you can’t see your son… If you don’t give me $$ today you can’t see your kid”… that’s just dead wrong. Yes money, and material items are important when raising a child, but the bond between a parent and a child goes deeper than a haircut or sneakers. Those little boys need their father. I don’t have children, however, I know when I start my family, I will not allow anything to come in-between the relationship of my child, and his/her father. Adults work things out civilly. 
I totally understand sometimes issues can’t be resolved; sometimes partners must go their separate ways. However, that shouldn’t affect the relationship between father and child. A woman’s scorn is a dangerous weapon, yet it’s beyond selfish to drag a child into the dealings of two “grown” individuals.
You can’t use a child to keep a man, that’s foul.
This is the type of situation that keeps me from having children, I don’t want to end up going through the baby momma drama, getting ignorant, and conniving because I’m hurt.
The person who ultimately suffers is the child, why bring that type of mental anguish upon your baby?
